A Book Report

I recently decided to buy myself a copy of A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating by Evan Marc Katz in the vain hope of finding some inspiration for this on-line dating lark. But after turning that final page, rather than complaining that it only stated the obvious, I’ve decided that what the book actually told me was that I was at least heading in the right direction.

There are all the usual pointers such as not moaning in your profile with things like "I don’t know why I’m doing this" or having uninteresting lists such as "I like breathing, eating and the movies". So in that essence I’m on the right track with both my own profile and the manner in which I contact people on Match.com with a questioned based message to try and encourage them to write back (not that they did).

I guess the only thing I didn’t truly accept was that I needed to be in for the long haul. Sure, I knew it wasn’t going to be easy, but after months of absolute failure I was on the verge of giving up. But the book gave me a right royal kick up the backside and made me realise that you’re not going to find "the one" overnight. You just need to keep trying and with new members joining every week it’s important not to give up on that search.

Also, I only subscribe on a month to month basis too. Not only is this costing more in the long run, but I guess I was hoping that one month "the one" would appear and I wouldn’t have to keep up my subscription. The book then pointed out that it doesn’t matter if I subscribe for a year for £100, because even if I do find "the one" after only one month, it will be best £100 I’d ever spent. They don’t half make a good point…