People create a profile on Match.com for a reason – and that reason is to advertise themselves to other Match.com members in the hope of being a suitable match. Likewise, they also define desirable attributes in the person they are searching for – such as age, hair and eye colour along with interests and a level of education. However, there is one contentious issue that I’m not really sure about when it comes to either ignoring or contacting a Match.com member. And that issue is height.
I just wonder that, out of all of the other characteristics people search for, whether this is a top of the list requirement and if, women in particular, will not waver from a set height criteria. Naturally, if someone is tall they tend to only look for someone with a similar height, but there appears to be an awful lot of women in Match.com land looking for tall blokes.
So what is it with tall blokes that make the ladies go all wobbly at the knees? What do they bring to the party that average height and shorties don’t? After all, it’s much harder to buy clothes for tall people and you only have to look in the various clothes sales to see that the majority of shirts and trousers are for types that come with their own weather systems.
So being a bit of a short arse myself, at a mere 5 foot 7, I just wonder whether I’d be wasting my time contacting someone who is looking for a bloke who is 5 foot 8 or 9. I mean, what’s an inch between friends and is it really that important? Answers on a postcard please...
Saturday, September 23, 2006
What’s an Inch Between Friends?
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Imagine what the dating world is like when you're only 5'5". My experience is that height is extremely important to a woman. I believe it's because they want to feel feminine around their man, so she must be shorter and thinner. By the way, I'm also skinny. :)
I don't mean to be the bearer of bad news or to ruin your mood. You asked a question, and I thought I'd answer. I still hope for the best for you. And I hope your job gets more interesting this week. :)
The biggest issue with match.com dating is that in all the dates I have had (40+ - yes, that is FORTY - sadly) men who are shorter than a legitimate 6'0 feel the need to add 2 inches to their height in their profiles. . .I can't tell you how many of the men I had met claimed to be 5'8 or above & when we met eye to eye - were mere 5'6 (like me). Did they think I wouldn't notice a few inches difference? Now, 5 pounds here & there, sure..you can fudge about that - but height, hair - 20+ pounds - NEVER. yet many men do - which is why I finally gave up.
franje is right - most women prefer a taller man b/c they feel more feminine. I know I do. But, at 5'7 you are not *short* - so long as you are an honest 5'7, you're good..... there are plenty of women who want a man at least their height. . and some who take no issue with a man being an inch or two shorter.... you just have to find that girl.
I do have a bone to pick with most men on match.com, however - and that is that they almost always want a slender or athletic body type. EVEN if they are avergae or a few extra pounds. Most women take little issue with a few little pounds whereas many men call it a deal breaker. This is why many of us feel that it is *ok* to want a taller guy. If men can have certain expectations, why not women?
The reality is that creating profiles makes you define what physical characteristics you want. I am 5'6 and if we met and connected, I would not be bothered that you were the same height...but if I had to give my idea a woman would always tell you she would like a man taller than she is.
I have a great single friend in Manchester.....:)
My roommate is the same way. She has very specific bodily ideals. I have to agree with the first 2 comments. It does make us feel more feminine and I think men are far more picky when it comes to body type. It would be much easier if we could just meet as friends first. No strings attatched. I'm with someone now that I never would have gone out with if I'd seen him on Match. The chemistry in person is something you can't deny. Online it's a "no thanks." Online you can look at those numbers and blow them off. In person, no, it's not that important.
Just to make sure, I’ve measured my height again. Unfortunately, all I have is a crappy old ruler and a pencil – but after much scribbling on a wall I still appear to be 5 foot and somewhere between 6 and 7 inches (probably nearer the 7 mark).
Also, my profile doesn’t claim to make me out as ‘Athletic and Toned’ (although I am trying to achieve this – without much success mind) and I describe myself as being “About Average” (which I probably am). Likewise, I’m looking for someone who is “Slender”, “Athletic and toned”, “About average” or “A few extra pounds”. And as for height – somewhere between 5 and 6 foot.
Still, I can’t help agreeing with your comments – especially Anne's – because the last thing I wanted to do was to define a physical characteristic – that’s why I made my criteria as broad as possible. Never the less, if you take a step back and reassess things, it’s still exactly what I’ve done!
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